The other day, I got a comment posted on my blog here that challenged me–not angered me, but challenged me and the title of my newly released book–and as a result, it made me realize something about the title Get Over Yourself!…That it can be grossly misunderstood!
So, I responded to this dear woman personally, but thought it would be beneficial to post my reply here too (with her permission)–just incase any of you are thinking as she was thinking. 
Here is her post to me:
When you say. “Deal with the past.” it IS NOT that simple, if it was, then one would just do it! Or “get over yourself!” My sister whom I loved w/all my heart and soul died of an eating disorder. We are Preacher’s kids(no longer kids!) Watching her the last hrs of her life, after we took her off the ventilator, I will never forget thinking, “Lord where is your MERCY?!” She knew the Lord as savior, had a master’s degree in Psych. yet, “stuff” happens to believers just as unbelievers, maybe there is pain so deep in this life, that some don’t “get through it”, does that mean she was just so self-absorbed that she didn’t want to be WHOLE and as you put it, “Get over yourself” I don’t believe that! I don’t mean to be nasty, and I’m sure I am looking at it all wrong…in getting over oneself so many need to know they are loved REGARDLESS!
And here was my response back to her–and BTW, just so you know, we have been communicating since then and all is well–God opened the lines of communication and I am honored to have been given the opportunity to minister to her heart.
I am so deeply sorry about the tragic loss of your beloved sister. I cannot imagine all you and your family must be going through and what she must have been going through that brought her to such a horrific end. My heart and prayers go out to each of you.
I will be the first to tell you that watching a loved one waste away in pain is one of the hardest things that any of us will ever endure in this life. I, too, watched my father die after a very long and hard battle with cancer for nearly two years—he was my hero. I watched, helplessly—as you must have—as he wasted away to skin and bones right before my eyes, until he took that last and final breathe. That picture is one that never leaves your mind, I know. And I am so sorry you all had to endure that, especially as you stood hoping, praying, and believing that God would intervene on her behalf.
The fact of the matter is, I agree with you more than you realize. “Get Over Yourself” truly has nothing at all to do with being “self-absorbed” or not wanting to be free or whole…as a matter of fact, its precisely the opposite. The pain that you spoke of, the pain your sister endured in her lifetime and the heartache I felt in my experience with my dad and others is not easy to get beyond, you’re right…and that’s the very reason that I wrote my book “Get Over Yourself”.
“Get Over Yourself” is quite literally the roadmap that I, myself, followed in order to learn HOW to handle the pain of my life and HOW to discover that, by God’s Grace, I could eventually find some purpose in it all…
You see, after my dad wasted away and left this earth, I was left to cope with my pain and every emotion that came along with it. Long story very short (as I share in my book), I never dealt with my loss “properly” (or should I say “biblically”)—instead, I ran as hard and fast as I could run from the pain and the anguish until I eventually ran headlong into the dead-ends of anger issues, abusive relationships (one right after another), promiscuous behavior, substance abuse, and an eating disorder (bulimia) that nearly took my life. From there, every moral failure and every mistake that followed each attempt to just “move on” resulted in my digging deeper and deeper into a pit of despair—until that pit swallowed me completely, causing me to be “stuck” in life for years and years to come…
That is until years later when I ended up running into the arms of a caring God who dealt lovingly with me and began to give me a fresh start…but soon, I found that I was still stuck—even WITH the Lord as my Savior! I was so frustrated! Finally, after months of praying, fasting and seeking God as to why I wasn’t getting anywhere in life and why I still felt so “stuck” in the past and the pain from yesterday…He answered me. And His answer was just that—He said, “Its time to Get Over Yourself!”
Now that may sound a bit harsh but what God was showing me was that I was “stuck” in the issues of my life—the pain, shame, hurt, regret, failures, disappointments, and the realities of this hard life—and trying desperately to move on but failing miserably. God dealt lovingly and wonderfully with me, teaching me how to “go back” to deal with my past properly before I tried to “move forward”. He brought me His love and His grace and He helped me to recognize that while I might not understand WHY things happen in life, I could still come to trust Him and His plans for my life. He helped me to dig out the painful wounds of yesterday so I could begin to heal properly—from the inside out. And He showed me that, once I healed completely, that the great pain of my life could, in time, be turned into a great purpose.
And THAT’S what this “Get Over Yourself” book is about…its about God’s unfailing love for us, about getting beyond those things that hold us back or keep us “stuck”. It’s about inner healing, renewing our minds, controlling our thought life, and gaining a proper perspective on our past, present and future. It’s about learning how to embrace ALL that life throws at us—the good, the bad, and the ugly—so we can make the most of every day. And finally, it’s about learning HOW to trust God and WHAT to do when life takes an unexpected turn—despite our lack of understanding the “WHY’s” behind it all.
It’s truly about all that you said here in your post…and I can’t help but to think that perhaps you might come to find the book useful as you work daily to cope with the loss of your precious sister and all that entails…
My heartfelt prayers are with you as I pray God displays His faithfulness in your life. Please keep in touch. I’d love to hear from you again.
Im so glad that God sent this precious woman to me…not only did it remind me to make myself clear when ministering this message to others, but it further confirmed to me just how desperately needed this book truly is…
…May it minister to the hearts of many!
For more about this book, Get Over Yourself!: 7 Principles To Get Over Your “Self” and On With Your Destiny, go to www.GetOverYourselfNow.com .
(BTW, if you’ve actually read the book and you’d like to share your thoughts or testimonies about how it ministered to you, please, dont hesitate to share. 
We’d love to hear it!)
Blessings and love!
